Apparently, Summer = Rest and relaxation. Two things most of us need more of. As we enjoy the blue skies and sunshine (obviously alongside the very British moaning about the weather, “it’s a bit hot isn’t it!”) many people start thinking about holidays.
My experience is that holidays don’t necessarily equate to rest and/or relaxation! Whether it’s the anxiety of travelling, the cost, the kids (no we’re not nearly there yet!) or simply the fact that even on holiday there’s so much to do!
There is a wealth of information ‘out there’ that stresses the importance of rest and relaxation for our mental and physical wellbeing, and Jesus said we would find rest with him (Mt 11v28). But that’s not always the easiest. I believe that Jesus was quite a fan of wellbeing – he wanted us to be ourselves, not strive to be someone we’re not and he stressed the importance of resting.
I recently read an email that reminded me of the importance of looking after our own wellbeing and a specific line hit me “We are our own responsibility after all”. The article continued by suggesting that if we don’t look after our own wellbeing then our ability to truly embrace who we are, and to live that out, will reduce.
There is truth in this. Jesus commented that everything rests (excuse the pun!) on two things – Love the Lord your God and love your neighbour as yourself (Mt 22:37-39). If we focus on the last bit of that I believe it means that we need to be able to love ourselves – who we are – and to pay attention to how we look after ourselves; we need holistic rest (mental, physical, emotional, spiritual). Only then are we able to serve and love others.
Rest looks different for everyone, it’s not just about stopping and sitting quietly (although that can be good), to me it’s something that gives you chance to put aside work/life etc for a few minutes and focus on something that feeds your soul. This could be nature, exercise, art, coffee with friends, dancing, computer games etc etc.
For many of us the summer doesn’t automatically equal holiday, rest and relaxation. Life goes on; churches have summer fete’s and regular services need to function with various people on holiday; kids are off school and after two days are bored and searching for things to do – often whilst parents and carers are trying to juggle who has the kids whilst they try and juggle work! So yes, rest and relaxation can be a tall order to reach.
Jesus doesn’t ask us to be perfect though (phew!) - he simply nudges us to find small nuggets here and there where we can rest – in whatever way helps us.
Helen Scheven works with those at the beginning of their vocational journey and with those interested in lay ministries as part of the diocese’s Vocations and Training team. Helen supports those on Reader Training. lichfield.anglican.org/vocations-and-training
Image: 'The Beach' at Lichfield Cathedral is back for a fourth year until 31 August - sand, decking, children’s activities, refreshments and more for families to enjoy. (T Scheven)